July 18, 2012

She Drove Horrendously, She Cried, She Conquered

Sometimes when you talk the talk, life makes you walk the talk too. I’d been talking about trying to be more compassionate, trying to see the other point of view, but nothing made me test my theory like this morning.
On my way to work, as I took a turn, a car came and banged into mine from the back. It was a lady trying to beat me to the turn. I heard a loud thump and a sickening scrape of metal. The lady driving looked at me blankly and then sped off ahead. Enraged, and not in the mood to be spending money un-denting my car (again), I took off after her. She knew what I was doing because she was trying everything to dodge me.
After much negotiating of traffic and surly expressions, I finally caught up with her at a red light. Jumping out of my car I ran up to her window, all set to make her pay for her bad driving skills. She rolled down the window with the same blank expression, and then proceeded to act like she had no idea about what had happened. Had she hit my car? Really? But when?
I wasn’t buying it. I told her everything that was wrong with her driving, and was in the middle of explaining how difficult it is to keep getting my car fixed when she started crying. Big, loud, teary crying. The traffic started moving around us. I wanted to hurry things up, but the way in which she was howling made me feel bad. Maybe she was a new driver? Maybe she was going through a bad patch? Crap. Why did she start crying? I decided that I would try and be more compassionate, and just let it go. I told her to be more careful, and that I didn’t want any money. I just wanted her to be more aware of the other cars on the road. She nodded, and apologized.
I got back into my car and drove to work, feeling very sorry for myself. Upon reaching, the first thing I did was check the damage. No dent or scratch. Nothing? I looked again. Not a scratchI guess the powers-that-be were encouraging my efforts at being a better person. Thank you, thank you, thank you.


  1. Hahahahaha. Glad the cars fine and so are you! But people just cry... don't fall for that! Trust me... she should have apologized and not zoomed away- it would have had you a lot calmer a lot earlier and saved the chase etc.

    1. She seemed really worked up. Maybe she was a really good actress?
      Just glad my car is okay . . . I can't handle bad drivers anymore. There's too many out there!

  2. Oh god, this reminds me of the time some woman cut me off, tore half my bumper off and sped away. I chased her down, forced her to stop and she claimed she hadn't done anything. I was like, dude, half my bumper is gone, I want your license NOW. In the meantime, a sweeper had stopped to gawk and put in her two bits, and this woman was really rude to her. The sweeper turned to me and said, 'didi, aap isse chodhna mat'. I took her business card (the driver's, not the sweeper's!) and took one look at her name and burst out laughing. Her name was Melba. No joke. I agree with Pritha - the fact that she sped off totally indicates guilt. Am glad you and your car are okay! :)

    1. Hahaha 'didi aap isse chodhna mat'
      Did she pay you finally? Also - Respect. Aiight.


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